Anger is the defining moment. The end of patience. The limit of acceptance. Being tired and/or frustrated is the most understandable time to loose control. Deciding anything when upset is usually more upsetting later. Taking anger apart has been a worthy challenge.

It starts by learning to be (really) sorry. Sorrow is the way we change "mistake" reflexes. We seem destined to repeat the same mistakes until we learn how defensive denial makes us miss the point (of the exercise). Being tired (of repetition) helps us let the sorrow out from behind the anger.

When the emotional landscape gets rough we jump into a tough exterior for shelter. I see anger as a vehicle that needs constant updating. The most important aspect is how you fuel it. Hate seems to be the most toxic sludge. But burning frustration can help focus on something that relates care (for sharing the lesson).

I have used anger creatively to summon extra energy. We must be careful not to direct it at anybody (especially ourselves). Anger is a drug which changes us chemically for getting through periods if dis-ease. Like any medicine you must control the dosage.

Anger may be natural but to justify it is a trap. Defenses cost dearly in time and effort. The quickest way to defuse it is learning about forgiveness. This starts the effort of understanding, which in turn invites wisdom.

Wisdom does not enter an angry mind.